Why boss and subordiantes oftern fight

Every species adapt or adjust or show some level of flexibility or compromise to survive. The fear of loosing life if it fails to exhibit the above traits only makes different species of animals and plants either to adapts, adjust, compromise or be flexible.  The question is when one adapts due to a strong trigger or cause then it is supposed to over power and over come fear about the same cause/trigger that has caused such changes. But most animals, even after their adaptation, continue to be in scared and fearful state. The question is why adaptation and fear go together?   Shouldn’t adaptation in fact remove fear?

 

The management truth is different. Adaptation or adjustments or flexibility are meant only to minimize the risk/danger and not overcome. It means, if the prey animal has adapted to run faster than its predator, it has only developed the capability to over speed the predator to escape and not to overcome predator.

 

The adaptation of prey species to run faster than its predator cannot change the predatory behaviour or instinct of the predator.   It means, your adaptation is ‘you’ specific and it is nothing to do with others. Similarly, the predator too would adapt to overcome its prey.

 

It is like I will change because you and you change because of me. Then we both shall continuously change because of each other and let such process continue.  Because of the above, the balance of ecosystem is maintained and both the prey and predator enjoys equal right and justice.

 

The unfortunate part in most corporate is that the bosses would expect their subordinates to change. When the subordinates change for the sake of the bosses, bosses would continue to feel happy and proud initially as they have successfully changed their subordinates. But that would never solve the problem because the bosses would remain unchanged.  In due course of time, boss-subordinate conflicts become acute.

 

The bosses always want their subordinates to learn newer techniques, skills, knowledge etc., but the bosses never update and become contemporary. That is how most corporate functions these days. When people who have developed newer skills and techniques unfortunately find no utility value in the same organization, naturally they would leave their organization.   The organization and the bosses would call such people ungrateful, thankless etc., as they have developed all such skills and techniques only at the expense of the organization and once they have learned, they wants to join another organization.  The truth is that the organization never finds any value for such people.

 

When the organization has made its people to adapt and acquire newer skills, the organization and bosses also must adapt and create sufficient opportunities to fully ‘use’ the newly acquired skills of the people.   If such scope is not there, then the people should not have been made to adapt and acquire new skills.

 

Philosophy of ‘you change’ because of me and ‘I change’ because of you, the corporate must follow. It means, both the people and the organization must evolve together and not separately.

 

S Ranganathan

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When you are sad…learn this about animals….a HR message

Why the life of most people in corporate is often filled with lot of stress, problems and is in a state of uncertainty? In fact most corporate would provide paraphernalia and all comforts that the employees need to perform.

If we look at the life of different species of animals in the jungle, the problems of all animals in jungle are real. However animals appear to suffer the least when compared to man. The problems of man is not just physical but psychological but the psychological problems are unlikely to be high among animal world.

First and foremost, we need to understand the problem definition. In human life, the problems often get magnified several folds due to comparison and contemporariness.

Most people in corporate expect good increment, promotion to next level and appreciation for their work from top management mostly because every employee always wants to look great to their peer group.   More than they really want all the above (promotion, increment etc.,), the employees want to grab the attention of others and wants to be in an envious position.

If they fail to grab the attention of others or fail to create envy upon others, most feel their life is miserable. This is their biggest challenge. The other challenge is that even if they do not look great to their peer group, they do not want to look silly.   On the contrary, those who do not wants to engage in creating an identity for them will turns to become subterranean species, prefers to be invisible to others.

There is also another challenge they face in corporate. That is, if they fail to evoke jealous upon others and catch their attention, they become jealous on others. They start comparison to ascertain their value and contemporariness.

If we carefully look at the life of animals we can find that none of the above challenges ever exist in animal world viz.,

  1. None of the animals ever try to catch the attention of other animals nor do they try to evoke jealous upon them (except during breeding season)
  2. None of the animals ever fear that they should not look so silly to others and therefore they must work with caution and care
  3. None of the animals seems to ever develop jealous upon others and would

compare their value and contemporariness.

Whether they live a solitary life or remain in groups, they remain more as individuals. They struggle a lot to survive than earn respect and recognition from others. Only when our desire moves towards creating self identity, respect & recognition from others and seek attention from others & create jealous of others, life become miserable.

Corporate people have all the three challenges viz., either they work to earn respect of others or hide to avoid the possibility of being looked upon as silly or would develop jealous upon others. The above thinking or expectation is not the only cause for sadness.   The scope of one having the three separate emotions to replace one for the other only contributes to our grief.

Imagine, if the scope for such replacement is absent, people will certainly continue to work to earn the respect of others than being jealous of others or would prefers to be subterranean species.

Unfortunately, man lacks his original identity and hence he casually changes or looses his identity. The animals on the other hand, always remain in their real identity. This is true with both prey and predator.

Create your own identity and live with it. Never create your identity and look for others to endorse or recognize it. You cannot live with an identity that is presumed to have been created by others. Such situation would warrant one to change the identity often, just for the sake of others.

Be a product of what you are and how you think than how others should think or how to earn their recognition.

Reason for the sadness of people in corporate is only due to identity crisis.

Dr S Ranganathan

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